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Has Your Life Been Affected by Someone Else's Drinking?

Alateen is for young people whose lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking. Sometimes the active drinking has stopped, or the active drinker may not live with us anymore. Even though the alcohol may be gone, and the alcoholic gone or recovering in AA, we are still affected. Many of us have received help from Alateen or Al-Anon. The following 20 questions are to help you decide whether or not Alateen is for you.

  1. Do you believe no one could possibly understand how you feel?
  2. Do you cover up your real feelings by pretending you don’t care?
  3. Do you feel neglected, uncared for, or unloved? 
  4. Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else’s drinking or what’s happening in your home? 
  5. Do you stay out of the house as much as possible because you hate it there? 
  6. Are you afraid or embarrassed to bring your friends home?
  7. Has someone’s drinking upset you?
  8. Are mealtimes, birthdays, and holidays spoiled because of drinking or others’ reactions to the drinking?
  9. Are you afraid to speak up for fear the drinking or fighting will start again?
  10. Do you think the drinker’s behavior is caused by you, other members of your family, friends, or rotten breaks in life?
  11. Do you make threats such as, “If you don’t stop drinking and fighting, I’ll run away?”
  12. Do you make promises about behavior, such as I’ll “get better grades,” or “keep my room clean,” or “do anything you want,” in exchange for a promise that the drinking and fighting will stop?
  13. Do you feel that if the drinker loved you, she or he would stop drinking?
  14. Do you ever threaten or actually hurt yourself to scare the drinker into saying, “I’m sorry,” or “I love you”?
  15. Do you or your family have money problems because of someone else’s drinking?
  16. Are you scared to ride in a car with the drinker?
  17. Have you considered calling the police because of abusive behavior?
  18. Do you avoid dating or having close friends because they may find out about the drinking or fighting?
  19. Do you think your problems would be solved if the drinking stopped?
  20. Do you ever treat teachers, friends, teammates, etc. unfairly because you are angry about someone else’s drinking? 

 If you have answered "Yes" to any of these questions, Alateen may help you. 

Questions can be emailed to

For information regarding Alateen Events and SCAC, go to the Alateen Events page.

For information regarding Alateen WSO Facebook page, click here to download a PDF. Alateen WSO is a source of information about Alateen, not a place for members to share with each other. It is intended to deliver an Alateen message to the many young people who are on Facebook. It is not a place for members to share their program with each other and with others, which would violate our Tradition of anonymity.

Alateen is a fellowship of young Al-Anon members, usually 12 to 21 years old, whose lives have been affected by someone's else's drinking. In Southern California you can also find young Alateen meetings usually for Al-Anon members aged 6 to 12.

To find Alateen meetings near you, go to the Meeting Information page and follow a link to the Al-Anon website nearest you.

Alateen interests are represented by the Alateen Sponsor Coordinator, the Alateen Process Person, and the Alateen Coordinator all of whom serve on the Area World Service Board. You can contact any of the board members with questions or concerns using the Contact Us page.

Are you an Al-Anon member interested in being of service to Alateen? See the Alateen Sponsorship page for more information by clicking here.

SCWS Alateen Guidelines and Forms
Form Download
Transferencia Directa
SCWS Area Alateen Safety & Behavioral Requirements (June 1, 2013)
SMSC Requisitos de Suguridad, Comportamiento y Responsabilidades de Alateen en la Zona
SCWS Alateen Event Plan Form (Revised 02/04/16)
SCWS SAMPLE Alateen Event Plan - Convention Day Program Only English
SCWS SAMPLE Alateen Event Plan - Convention with Overnight Accomodations English

For information regarding Alateen Events and SCAC, go to the Alateen Events page.